If you’re looking for timeless advice to pass on to your tween or teenager then stay tuned, I wrote 101 Words of Wisdom for My Teenage Daughter for that reason.
As a mother of two girls, I am continually thinking about their future, their self-esteem, and all of the negative impacts today’s social media charged world has on their values.
Being a mom is a challenge; raising confident girls with a strong sense of self-esteem and body confidence is a calling.
And a struggle.
You want to make an impact without being a nag.
You want to gently point your daughters in the right direction without coming off as that preachy mom or worse, a hypocrite.
In a perfect world, you could take these Words of Wisdom for My Teenage Daughter, print it off, hand to your daughter, and she’d live by it.
But you and I know we aren’t living in a perfect world.
So, use these words of wisdom as a conversation starter – you never know how much she may open up and share something she’s going through after you open the door to communication.
101 Words of Wisdom for My Teenage Daughter
Always be yourself
Fitting in is out. Send your daughter the message that what makes her different, her unique personality, her out of the box thinking, her eclectic style, and her background is an asset.
Coco Chanel said it best – In order to be irreplaceable, one must always be different.
The world has changed dramatically with the rise of social media, and our girls measure their worth by the number of likes and shares. This phenomenon hit home with me when my 14-year-old daughter confessed her fears one week before her birthday.
After I asked her if she was excited to turn 15, she hesitated and told me about her anxiety; she worried about how many people would post a Happy Birthday message, and if it weren’t enough, then she would have to delete the post.
Talk to your daughters about how their social platforms impact their self-esteem. Build their confidence by encouraging their unique abilities and talents. And open a conversation about healthy amounts of screen time.
Happiness is a choice
Happiness doesn’t just happen. It is a choice we make every day. I encourage you to talk to your daughters and find out how they define happiness. Do they believe they have to earn it? Or buy it?
You can help her find her “happy” through more experiences and less stuff. Not that having beautiful things is terrible, but living a life for material items will never be satisfying. But filling your life with memories of experiences that bring joy leads to a more fulfilled existence.
Live in the moment
High School may not be the best time of your life
If high school were a breeze for everyone, John Hughes wouldn’t have made millions on movies about frustrated teens like The Breakfast Club, Sixteen Candles, Weird Science, Pretty In Pink, and Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.
Do not wait until everything is perfect
Perfect doesn’t exist
Find your Why
Your “why” is your passion & if you follow it you’ll be successful – and happy.
Food will never fill an emotional void – Not even chocolate
Music is therapy
Don’t be a Regina
Be a Kady
Fall in love with someone who loves you back
Take care of your skin
Find a cause that means something to you
Live with passion
Stand up for what is right even if it is not popular
Talk yourself OUT of your excuses
You don’t need makeup
But if you wear it-go easy on the eyeliner
Wear the heels
(It’s ok to be taller than he is)
It’s ok to fail
Our girls need to know that failing doesn’t define them. We learn more from our failures than we do from our triumphs.
Do you know what Anna Wintour, Henry Ford, Walt Disney, Lada Gaga, Thomas Edison, Stephen King, Micheal Jordan, and Jk Rowling have in common?
Nobody makes it big without taking risks and falling down a few times.
Jeans are investment pieces
Embrace your flaws
Ditch the filters – You don’t need them
Laugh – Often
Say Please & Thank You
But never compromise your integrity to be polite
Life is not a competition
Even though it seems like it now
Stay away from gossips
People who belittle people will always be little people
Krispy Kreme doughnuts are a million times better hot
Tell the truth. Trust me, it is easier.
Keep a journal
Throw a party without a pity theme
Don’t rely on someone else to make you happy
You do not have to be a size 4 to be beautiful
I don’t care what they say about the chemicals
Always park in well-lit areas
Be kind to others
Memorize these safety tips – they may save your life
There’s always going to be someone with more than you & less than you
Be grateful for what you have now
Don’t play dumb
Don’t be a Drama Queen
Life is not a soap opera
Wake up early
Stay up late
Watch the news, read newspapers – and check your sources
Stop comparing yourself to others
Be the first one to say “I love you.”
Be the first one to say “I’m sorry.”
Learn how to take a compliment
Learn how to take criticism
If he treats his mother poorly…RUN
Make a Bucket List
Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of yours
Learn how to laugh at yourself
Be ok with how you sound
Stop apologizing when it’s unnecessary
Don’t ditch your girlfriends for a guy
Don’t accept a last minute date invitation
If he were that into you, he would’ve called sooner
Never let fear hold you back
Early is on time.
On time is late.
Late is unacceptable.
Your value cannot be measured by a GPA
Or a scale
Or a mirror
Or a bank account
Or a friend group
Don’t change for a boyfriend
Volunteer – Make random acts of kindness a habit
Donate something with the tags still on it
It’s ok to cry
Showing your emotions is a sign of strength
Find joy in every moment
Find friends that believe in you as much as I do
Memorize these quotes
Finally, Never forget how much I love you, and that I’m on your side – no matter what
Our daughters are growing up in a new era where they face more challenges and opportunities than any generation before them.
By opening the lines of communication, we can guide them in the right direction and lead them to a life filled with self-love, self-esteem, and a full-filling, authentic experience.
Did I Miss Anything?
Which piece of advice will you pass on first?
Or maybe I didn’t mention your favorite words of wisdom for teenage girls?
Either way, let me know in the comment section below!