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Positive affirmations aren’t just for self-help gurus. Experts suggest that we follow every correction we give our children with ten positive statements. Positive affirmations help children build self-esteem and work through anxiety.
Why Are Positive Affirmations Important?
Positive affirmations are important for children because our belief system is built early in life. Positive affirmations for kids lay the foundation for a healthy set of beliefs about themselves and the world around them. Negative childhood experiences can have far-reaching consequences. If a child only receives negative feedback, he will never believe in himself. By using positive affirmations, parents are setting the stage for a brighter future for their children. Simply put, using positive affirmations creates positive children.
The Negative Mother
I feel like it’s important for me to share the experience that led me to write this post.
I have never heard a mother belittle a child the way I did last week, and I hope I never have to again.
You see, according to her everything the child did was wrong.
He wasn’t being still! He was too hyper, and she didn’t understand his constant pleas for food.
Well, it was right after school, and he looked to be about five years old. Kids typically need physically activity after being in a classroom all day! Not to mention food!
As if she were on the five o’clock news, she began broadcasting to all of the shoppers how the boy is a menace to kindergarten.
There was no voice of reason. Her crew of three friends joined her by making their cruel observations about the child as they shopped. No one came to his defense.
He just stood there with a pitiful look on his face.
At one point he asked his mother if she wanted to know the good things he did that day, but she was too busy laughing with her friends to notice him.
I know I should have done more than pray for this child, but I was so overwhelmed I abandoned my groceries and drove home. See, this scenario struck a chord in me for two reasons.
First, I know how it feels to be a child that’s ridiculed by a negative parent. Let me tell you, it does without a doubt scar you for life.
Also, every time I heard her ridicule her son I thought of my son Nathan. My autistic, non-verbal son Nathan. How much I would love to hear him ask me for snacks or for anything. The fact that this mother took her child’s health for granted enraged me.
And I did nothing. Until I sat down and wrote this article about positive affirmations for parents. It’s my way of taking action and hopefully helping you a little today.
10 to 1 Rule
Every kid makes mistakes. When they do, parents must point them back in the right direction. Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in too many corrections and not enough positive affirmations. It’s important to remember the ten to one ratio rule.
For every one negative thing, you point out in your child-any correction you give them -you need to back it up with ten positive statements.
Teaching Kid’s Positive Affirmations
You can teach your child to use positive affirmations in several ways. First, by using them yourself! Start and end each day with a positive affirmation. Some parents find practicing daily affirmations in a more tangible way in the form of a notebook works well. A Positive Affirmation Notebook like this one with 132 affirmations for kids is perfect. This Positive Affirmation Coloring Book is also a great choice.
Regardless of the manner in which you chose to promote positive affirmations, I applaud your choice of using positive parenting strategies!
Here are some positive affirmations to help you today!
36 Positive Affirmations
You are important
I know you did your best
I’m proud of you
I love your point of view
I’m here for you
I like to hear your ideas
It’s OK to make mistakes
I believe in you!
You did it
I believe you
I trust you
You can never disappoint me
You are a remarkable person
I love spending time with you
You are a considerate person
You have a kind heart
You should try that
I love the way you did that
You are perfect the way you are
You’re great at that
You are brave
Don’t be scared
Your opinion matters
I love how you tried
You’re a great sister
You’re a great brother
I’m grateful for you
I love you